The Struggles of Being in a Low-Effort Relationship: The Pain of Loving a Passive Partner

Let’s talk about the struggle. No, not the “I have to wake up early” or “I’m so tired from work” kind of struggle. I’m talking about the real struggle. The kind where you’re in a relationship with someone who can’t seem to put in any effort, and yet, somehow, they still expect you to pour out all your energy like it’s a bottomless well. The kind where you find yourself screaming silently into the void, asking, “How did I end up doing all the emotional labor? How is it still my job to fix everything?”

It’s exhausting, isn’t it? Like you’re carrying the weight of two people on your shoulders, and instead of feeling like a power couple, you feel like you’re an unpaid therapist, unpaid emotional laborer, and an unpaid motivational speaker. And, spoiler alert: it’s not sustainable.

You Say, “I Don’t Understand,” and I Say, “I Know You Don’t”

Oh, the classic line. You know the one. The “I don’t understand why you’re upset” or “I don’t get why you’re being so dramatic.” Oh, honey. If I had a nickel for every time I heard that line, I could have bought myself a vacation to get away from it all. The audacity. There you are, drowning in emotional turmoil, trying to make things work, and he’s out here acting like…